When you're dating someone with narcissistic traits, it can become very easy to identify everything they're doing wrong.  They don't take accountability. They turn the problem back on you. They minimize your feelings. You find yourself having the same conversations repeatedly without getting anywhere.  Those behaviors matter.  But there is another question that can be much harder to ask:  Why did I choose this person, why am I continuing in this relationship, and have I experienced this pattern before?  As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, I have met with couples where one partner demonstrates narcissistic traits and has significant difficulty…